I am currently using a few different websites/apps. The websites I use are Match.com and Pof.com and the apps I use are Hinge and Tinder. While my 2 serious post-college relationships are both compliments of online dating websites, I am still not their biggest proponents. However, I find myself using them a lot and I've been on quite a few dates where I feel like I can share my personal tips and tricks.
* Only post pictures of yourself*
If you have a picture that you are obsessed with and your 3 best friends are in it, crop them out. I can't tell you how many times I see a profile with the first few pictures being a group picture only to find out the profile does not belong to the guy you found attractive in the picture.
* Post your best pictures, but realistic ones*
I am obviously not going to post pictures of me looking a hot mess, but by only posting pictures of me at a wedding or gala I am showing my best self, but not my every day self. I always include pictures of me wearing my glasses as I wear them on most days and with neutral make up.
* Don't write a life story*
Write a brief description of your likes, dislikes and that's it. No one wants to read a novel. You need something to discuss on the first date anyway.
* Don't give out your phone number too soon*
I can't tell you how many messages, initial, introductory, first messages with a guys phone number in it. I do not know anything about you I am not going to text you right off the bat. Message back and forth a few times before giving out your digits.
* Once you do exchange numbers, don't wait too long to make the first date*
You don't want to waste your time sending out tons of flirty texts if you the flintiness isn't felt in real life. I can't tell you how many times I've felt chemistry with someone through text only to find they had no personality in real life.
* Always, ALWAYS tell someone where you're going and give them the guys name and number*
I can't stress this enough. Even if you have talked for a while and feel like you know someone, you are still meeting a stranger. Give this information to a friend or relative.
* Try to keep a first date short and simple*
I've made the mistake of having a grand first date and while there were a few times it did work out, more often than not it dragged. If you stick to coffee, drinks or lunch it gives both parties an out if there isn't chemistry, but also the ability to prolong the date if it's going well.
* Pay attention to your gut instinct*
I do truly believe women have an extra sense. If your gut is telling you something is off, don't worry about coming off rude, just get yourself out of there or block the person.
* Most importantly - have fun!*
Whether it's an amazing first date, or a disaster that you and your friends can laugh about. Just enjoy it!
One of my favorite messages that I actually saved: